Thursday, December 20, 2007

speaking of


I am about as cuddly as a cactus

About an hour after I should have already been asleep, Bob will come bounding up the stairs, talking up a wind storm.
Jump in bed, throw his arms around me, and say "Let's cuddle".

And then I say "What are you doing? No, you get back over there. You get on your own side of the bed"

"You know I can't sleep like that, and I need to go to sleep. If you wanted to cuddle you needed to do that hours ago"

Bob will sigh and say "Oh you are just so cute, so cute" with more resignation than sarcasm.
Then we will go to sleep, just like in this photo.

Cat was wondering just what the heck I was doing today, playing with Cheese's stuffed animals.

I think it is so romantic and sweet, how people sleep spooning, or with her head on his chest, or holding hands. I however am not, and don't imagine I will ever be, one of those people.
Maybe if I was a good sleeper then I would be a good sleeptime cuddler.


gayƩ said...

That's it! I am not a good sleeper myself. I worry too much and thoughts get stuck in my head, not leaving me alone, so goodbye sleep. I truly understand what you are saying.
I love the cuddly sleep, spooning and all that, but I can do it only for a period of time and then I have to get separated from the other warm body and not be touching, except for a foot or maybe holding hand. It's silly I know but Niall and I fall asleep holding hands very often. It still gives me my freedom to fall asleep all the while making me feel connected.
I am a semi-recovered insomniac Taffiny dear, for over a year I woke up every single night at 2 am, never was able to fall back asleep till at least 4 sometimes 5 am. I woke up exhausted every single morning and couldn't fall asleep easily at night. Rinse and repeat night after night. :(
I find if I physically tire myself out, exercise sports walks out in nature, etc, I sleep like a baby! I love my sleep and wish I could sleep better all of the time.
Photos and the story are totally cute and cuddly!

Taffiny said...

I am glad you are mostly recovered, from insomnia. ZZZzzzzzzz

I have gone through peroids where I have worked out a lot, and some where not at all, and though I have heard many people echo your sentiments, I haven't really noticed a change in my sleep. (If I had I would definitely work out everyday!).

That isn't silly at all, that is very sweet, you and Niall falling asleep holding hands :).

witnessing am i said...

I am only convinced that people sleep all cuddled and curled over and 'tween each other in the movies -- and not in real life. I have tried and it is damned hard to do.

Your images were very, very funny.

Happy Christmas, good Taffiny.

Taffiny said...


Thank you, that makes me feel much better. If someone who writes the way you do, and about the subjects you do, can have that view, than maybe I'm not just a cold grump.

I am so glad you thought the images funny.

Merry Christmas, good David. :)

Vesper said...

Like David, I don't think that happens much in real life.

Wonderful funny photos! :-)

sognatrice said...

P and I cuddle to start usually and then break up and sleep apart, perhaps a hand touching a leg. And then perhaps we'll retouch similarly over the course of the night, but sleep-spooning? Nah? Far too hot usually even in cold weather (flannel sheets you know!).

In any event, it never fails that by the time we wake up, we're always completely separate. It's just more comfortable dammit!

Taffiny said...


Thanks. :)

Again pleased to know it isn't just me.
Maybe you're right, like on TV and in Movies, that full on making out in the morning before anyone has brushed their teeth. I mean I understand a little kiss or two, but in those in the morning... well I doubt most people do that, and if they do, well then I wont be joining them.

Whose hand is on whose leg? :)
That sounds sweet.
True, most people do toss and turn in the night, so even if you start out together, you wouldn't wake that way.
I do at times feel bad though, that I don't ever fall asleep that way (together). It is nice that the two of you can, and enjoy it.

Wisewebwoman said...

First visit, Taffiny, I saw you over at Gaye's. I love the pics.
I only cuddled all night with one relationship, we had both hated, hated the idea prior to then and used to laugh that it was only with each other we could hold each other all night. I think it was a combination of body length and shape plus fitting so well and the pherenomes (sp?) were so powerful. Normally I need my own space in bed.
No it didn't last, broke my heart.
got over it though. Moved on to a non-cuddler.

Paul said...

Funny posts. I love the pictures of the stuffed animals.

My wife is one who prefers to fall asleep with her head on my chest and I like the feeling of that, but I could never fall asleep like that. I usually let her fall asleep and then have her move to her side. Makes both of us happy, I guess.

Paul (stugglingwriter)

Absolute Vanilla (and Atyllah) said...

I'm with you - I'm not a spooner or a cuddler either - give me my space, I say - preferably an entire bed, no, better yet, an entire room to myself!
Like you I'm prone to insomnia and I need my space to "not sleep" - I just stress if I'm not sleeping, thinking all the time that I'll disturb D.

I loved your photostory - very funny! :-)

Taffiny said...



It sounds like it was great while it lasted.

Glad you found someone new to um...not cuddle with. Well I mean not while sleeping. :)


Sounds perfect. Purr-fect.
I wish I liked that.
Or that I was like you, and willing to make someone else happy, while I waited for my turn to fall asleep. That is sweet. Apparently I am not sweet. Yeah, I'm not sweet. But you know I have the excuse of being several years behind on my sleep, which tends to make people cranky you know (or maybe you don't know). (wait, you have a toddler of course you know. Unless you all are sweet and even tempered no matter what, in which case you deserve some sort of prize, but I suppose then your own temperment would be your prize)


Good. I like having company, in my desire for not having sleep company.
I sleep much better when Bob is home than I do when he is away, but he does make an awful lot of breathing and snoring noises, so I have to have the fan on, and even then sometimes, I have to shove him a little bit, which oddly enough seems to wake him up and annoy him. :)

I am very pleased that you liked the photo story. Cheese saw it last night, and said it looked inappropriate. Pointing to the first photo of the cats "together". Looking at it that way had never occured to me. But now does. It is a little startling to me, that he is old enough for his mind to have gone "there".

I hope to see you all tomorrow, I'm not really doing my blog rounds today, as I am cleaning the house (and trying to make it look pretty) for Christmas get together next week.
But being such a good procrastinator have just been online looking for music for my ipod, as you can't expect me to keep cleaning without new music.

Akasha Savage said...

I like the idea of sleeping all cuddled together, but I also like my own space. We may start off all snuggly, but we soon separate...I'm not a good sleeper and fidget a lot. Like gaye, we usually fall asleep holding hands.

Taffiny said...


That sounds really nice, falling asleep holding hands.

Vesper said...

I'm back to wish you and your loved ones a very Merry Christmas and all the best in the New Year! :-)

Absolute Vanilla (and Atyllah) said...

Just stopping by to wish you a wonderful and very happy Christmas.

Taffiny said...

Vesper and Vanilla,
Vanilla Vesper (hmmm)
oh anyway.
Happy Holidays,
I hope you both had and are having a wonderful time.
Thank you so much for stopping by to wish me one! It means a lot to me. :)